The Teetering Balance of Humility for Christian Writers — Lila Diller

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Lila is an author of Christian Romance novels, blogger, and homeschool mom. She loves sushi and Mexican food, Hallmark movies, anything dark chocolate, the color purple, and reading in her pajamas. Lila, outnumbered by a houseful of males, lives with her supportive husband Chris, two energetic boys, and a hyper dog in NC. She loves to help readers create romance in their marriages and in their spiritual walks with Jesus. You can find her at

The Teetering Balance of Humility for Christian Writers

I’ve been learning the delicate balance between low self-esteem and pride.

On the one hand, one of the easiest things for newbie writers to think about advice from a writer peer is, “I’m not going to do that; they don’t know what they’re talking about.” Or maybe they think, “They don’t know where I’m coming from.”

Proverbs says over and over to listen to instructions from the wise to become wise yourself (Prov. 1:5, 8:33, 12:15, 19:20, 22:17; Ecc. 7:5). It only behooves us to learn from them, avoiding their mistakes and advancing further more quickly down the road of life as writers.

On the other hand, it’s easy to swing the pendulum from the one extreme of pride too far to the other extreme of self-loathing and inadequacy. We’re not to fall into this, either. God has gifted us with special talents and has a place for us to use them in His kingdom.

If we believe our talents are inferior, then we’ll most likely be fearful of using them. You’ll be scared to take risks, because being a writer takes the risk of vulnerability, of opening yourself to criticism. And you will receive criticism. It comes with the territory. In fact, I believe that God allows the criticism to keep us humble. Criticism’s purpose isn’t to paralyze us with self-pity or inadequacy or fear that we can’t make it. It’s to remind us that success is up to the Lord. We do all we can to be faithful stewards of His gifts (Matt. 25:15-29); but He gives the increase and uses it how He deems best. We are just pieces of clay in the Potter’s hands (Isa. 45:9; Jer. 18:1-4).

We can use criticism to help us improve. We also need to set our sensitivity aside and take only what is useful. There will most likely be haters who are just complaining because they’ve had a bad day; it may not even have anything to do with you.

One of the trickiest balances of humility is knowing who to listen to. Listen to and humbly glean what you can from those who know what they’re talking about, successful writers or your target readers. Listen to those who seem to genuinely want to help you. Graciously ignore all the rest.

About the Book

An inspiring, first-person, Christian romance about a tempted couple’s battle to overcome their desire for physical intimacy and remain pure.

Based on the Bible’s definition of true agape love in 1 Corinthians 13, Love is Patient is the third installment of the “Love is…” series, a contemporary Christian Romance continuing Morgan’s saga.

If you like a quick and easy read, with character development and a Biblical approach, then you’ll love Lila Diller’s book. Buy Love is Patient to see if Morgan and Jason conquer annoyance, stress, and lust, as they discover true patience.

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